Talk to Merv
One-to-one coaching for people who are tired of holding themselves back. At work, in relationships, in the mirror, in the room. I’m Merv, and helping people feel at home in themselves has been my job for ten years.
Sound like you?
None of that means there’s something wrong with you. It usually means you learned, a long time ago, that taking up less space was safer. You can unlearn that. It goes faster with someone in your corner.
What this is
Confidence coaching is regular one-to-one work on the specific places you hold yourself back. We talk it through, agree one thing for you to try that week, and then look honestly at what happened. Small, real actions, repeated, until the way you see yourself catches up.
I don’t coach “fake it till you make it”. I’m not interested in making you louder, or turning you into somebody else. The aim is that you stop performing confidence and start feeling like yourself in more places.
I’m best known as a body confidence photographer. For ten years, more than 850 people have walked into a room with me at the exact moment they felt most exposed, and walked out seeing themselves differently. What changed them was never really the camera. It was being properly seen by someone, without judgement, and being asked the right question at the right moment.
That’s what I do in coaching. And it covers confidence in general: your work, your relationships, your voice, your body if that’s part of it.
Don’t take my word for it
These are photography clients talking, unscripted, about what changed for them.
How it works
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You tell me what’s going on and what you’d like to be different. I tell you plainly whether I can help. If I’m not the right person, I’ll say so.
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One-to-one, by video call or in person in London. Each session ends with one thing to try before the next. Real life is where the work happens.
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We look at what’s changed and what you want next. Carry on, take a break, or call it done. Your call.
Simple, transparent pricing
£778
A month, for three months
Opening soon
£378
A month
In their words
Real reviews from photography clients. Their words, unedited. Notice how few of them are about the photos.
“A lifechanging experience - this is more than just a photoshoot. The shoot and photos are incredible, but it's Merv's insight, care, attention and coaching that stands this experience apart as something special. This isn't just about looking good, it's deeper and more transformative.”
“I have felt so much more confident in my day to day life all thanks to Merv.”
“The whole experience has genuinely made me feel differently about my body, and I don't focus so much on 'hang ups'.”
“His approach to boosting confidence and creating a safe space is world class. You will leave having explored something different in who you are.”
“He's got an innate way of making you feel like you've instantly made a friend and found a safe space to be brave.”
“It turned out to be much more than a photoshoot, a learning experience about myself.”
One coaching client has worked with me one-to-one for over a year. More than 50 sessions, and counting.
Reading about confidence is easy. You’ve probably done plenty of it. A conversation is where it starts to move.
Book a free 30-minute callYour coach
I’m Mervyn Reid-Nelson. Everyone calls me Merv. I founded You at Yours in London in 2017 and I’ve spent the years since helping people see themselves without the filter, on screen and off it. We have never Photoshopped a single image.
I’m direct, I’m warm, and I will ask you the question you’ve been dodging. I’ll also be properly pleased for you when you do the thing.
Questions
Confidence coaching is regular one-to-one work with a coach on the specific places you hold yourself back: speaking up, being seen, saying no, dating, going for the job, being in the photo. You talk it through, agree something to try that week, do it, and come back to look at what happened. It is practical and forward-looking. It is about what you do next, not about analysing your childhood.
Confidence in general. I'm known for body confidence because of the photography, but the people I coach bring work, relationships, visibility, social situations and that constant voice telling them they're not quite enough. How you feel about your body is often part of it. It is rarely all of it.
No. Coaching is its own thing, and it doesn't involve a camera. Plenty of the people I coach have never been in front of mine.
No. Therapy treats mental health conditions and works through the past with a clinically trained professional. Coaching works on where you are now and what you want to do next. I'm not a therapist and I won't pretend to be one. If it sounds on our first call like therapy would serve you better, I'll tell you, and that's a good outcome too. Lots of people do both.
Ten years and more than 850 sessions with people at the point they feel most exposed, plus ongoing one-to-one coaching clients, one of whom has worked with me for over a year. If you've had a shoot with me, you already know how I work.
One-to-one coaching is £778 a month for three months. The weekly group is £378 a month and opens soon. The first call is free, 30 minutes, and there's no obligation after it.
I can't promise you a date, and I'd be wary of any coach who does. Most people notice something shift in the first few weeks, usually because they've done one thing they'd been avoiding. Three months gives that time to stick, which is why the programme is that length.
Yes. Around 97% of my photography clients are women, but coaching is open to everyone. I also sit on the council of Shoulder to Shoulder, a men's wellbeing organisation, so men not feeling able to talk about this stuff is something I care about.
Yes. Sessions run by video call, so you can be anywhere. If you're in London and would rather meet in person, we can do that too.
Thirty minutes, on video or phone. You tell me what's going on and what you'd like to be different. I'll tell you plainly whether I think I can help, and how. If I'm not the right person, I'll say so. No pitch.
You don’t need to feel ready. Nobody does.
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