What If I Don't Like My Photos?

Hey, welcome to You At Yours, the space where people come to just learn to love themselves a bit more, or for the first time. It's incredible. Welcome!

So, what if you don't like your photos? It's a valid question. It's a question that I get now and then, and I have a very simple answer for you. It won't happen. And I possibly sound like someone quite arrogant sitting here telling you that you will love your photographs, but this has nothing to do with me or my ability. This has to do with you and your ability. Let me elaborate. 

How these experiences operate is nothing like most other photographers, okay? Most other photographers are very focused on the output, and how the photo will look at the end. The lighting, the mood, the outfit, the hair, the posing, all these things make up the photograph, okay? 

"Come on in, Sally. Stand against this wall, right? I'm gonna point this light down on you. There you go, Sally. Right. Now turn your head like that. All right, now poke your butt like that. All right. Pinky toe like that. There we go, Sally. All right. There's your picture. It looks great, doesn't it? Well done. Pay me. Bugger off."

 It's not how I operate. How I operate is I get to the truth, you. We sit down, we have a coffee, I find that more about you. 

What do you like as a person? 

Are you funny? 

Are you outgoing? 

Are you quiet? 

Are you shy? 

Are you an introvert, or an extrovert? 

Are you someone who is, you know, a bit cheeky, someone who's got, you know, a touch of the sexiness to them, you know? Are you someone who just has never seen their feminine side, ever?

Think of it like your own body confidence quiz!

These are important things for me to understand so I can help guide you through the process. I'm not guiding you through a series of poses, and it's not a case of, again, "Stand here, and stand here, and sit here, and sit here." There's an element of, "Show me who you are, and I will help you in the way that will direct you to the place you want to go to." And that might be more confidence. That might be trying to be more sensual or sexual in yourself because you've never explored that before. Maybe it's just a fun session. Maybe you want to jump up and down on the bed. All this also decides and impacts what kind of music we play. Music is such an important part of the session. If the goal is to have fun and be a kid again, we might play a 90s throwback playlist. But if the goal is to be sensual and erotic, maybe, you know, S Club 7 isn't gonna cut it. This is important. Who are you, and who are you trying to be? 

Now, when we figure that out, we will achieve it. It will happen. It's never not happened. You come into this space, and you will hang out with me, and you will find that you will quickly, very easily, tap into who you've always wanted to be. That more outgoing person, that louder person, the person that's just finally found themselves dancing on a bed in a room with a man they've never met before but feeling good doing it. It will feel alien and right at home at the same time. Then you get to look at your images. The reason why you believe you may not like your images is because you are fixated on the external, the output. 

When you look at your images and you see someone that you've never seen before, someone who might be rolling around on the bed, someone who's doing star jumps, smiling, someone who looks free, someone who looks confident, you are not going to be fixated as much as you think you are on things like your hangups, your legs, your cellulite, your stretch marks, your profile. All the things that you think you don't like about yourself will be important, but not as important as you think they are at this moment in time because you haven't had the experience. 

The experience is what helps you have a firmer understanding of what you are capable of. And you, my friend, are capable of so much more than just some pretty pictures. The photos are a reminder of the thing that you overcame and proof to you that you can do anything that you put your mind to. That's what the photos represent. So when you ask me the question, "What if I don't like any of my photos?" I can say to you that it's impossible. As long as you show up, as long as you try to be that version of yourself that you are that's hidden away out of fear of judgment and reprimand, and as long as you just be present in this space instead of thinking about the external world, you will not only like your pictures, you will love them. And I can guarantee it, okay? 

So that's the answer to that question. I hope it helps. I know it's probably not the answer you were looking for. What you wanted me to say was a refund. No. No, I'm joking.

Anyway, any more questions, please get in contact. If you are ready to jump, just book a call with me! You'll find out more about what I've just said and tons more, and we can just have a chat, all right? It's really important. And I'll speak to you soon, and I'll see you on the other side of the camera!

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